Being a mother of two young boys can cause you to think that you no doubt need a lesson in anger management. I suppose have children of any age can also induce that feeling. I have a short fuse to begin with, add in screaming, yelling, and just plain racket and you get a really messy situation.
I have never endangered my kid’s welfare nor have I seriously tried to hurt them. I can remember one day I thought it would be nice to decorate pumpkins with the kids and their cousins. So here I am with two two-year olds, and two five-year olds. We cut out things to glue on the pumpkins and then tried to glue them to the pumpkins. All the while they were running and throwing the pumpkins. I tried really hard to keep my calm and remember that I asked for this.
At the time all I wanted to do was rant and rave and yell at them. I wanted to tell them to go sit in the corner like a bunch of statues. Then I calmed myself and tried reminding myself that they are only children and that is what they do for fun. I have always said that some things are better remembered than experienced. I look back and think it was a good thing.
This is a story submitted to www.AngerManagementResource.com by Suzie from Woodville, TX. Please feel free to submit your own story about anger mangement, road rage, grief and loss, adolescent anger, or forgiveness.
Dr. Jeanette Raymond+ said,
February 5, 2009 at 7:47 pm
You did a great job catching yourself suzie. It sounds like you were able to access your love for your kids and determination to be a good parent before your anger took over. You allowed yourself to feel the anger but you stopped yourself from acting on it in ways that would have led to guilt and regret. That means that you are using all parts of you in a whole and integrated way. You are not acting unconsciously or impulsively. That says a lot about your personal growth.