Dr. DeFoore’s audio CD program entitled, Healthy Anger and Your Health will help you the awesome power of intelligent anger, which comes right from your good heart. Buy the CD, or download to listen immediately, with a 100% money back guarantee!

It’s a fact. Extreme anger shuts down higher brain functions, such as the neocortex, which is what you’ve heard of as the “right brain” and the “left brain.” That’s the thinking part of your brain, and when the fight-or-flight (feeling) part of your brain gets overactive, the lights go out in the thinking part.

This is why you can be a pretty smart person, get extremely angry, and do some very not-smart things. Think about it…when you’re really angry, are you at your best? Of course not. Here’s how it works:

• You feel threatened, and that’s why you’re angry.
• When you feel threatened, the primitive (reptilian) part of your brain literally takes over, and pushes the other brain functions aside so it can take care of business.
• The problem is, this usually happens with the people you love the most–that’s where your heart is open, so that’s where you’re the most vulnerable and easily threatened.
• So when those higher brain functions shut down, you forget how much you love this person you’re mad at, and you start feeling like they’re your worst enemy.
• You know how it goes from there. The explosion occurs, you feel the release, you eventually calm down and think, “Oh no, what have I done?” You’re feeling regret because you have calmed down enough for your higher brain functions to kick in and you know you don’t really want to hurt your loved ones.

This is why a really good person (like yourself) can end up doing some really bad, destructive things. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Keep reading to find out how your anger can become more intelligent.

Usually, we don’t think of anger and intelligence in the same breath, because as we discussed above, out of control anger makes us less intelligent. But what about healthy anger?

When anger is healthy, the higher brain functions still work! Imagine that…strong emotion and intelligence at the same time.

This is what the term “emotional intelligence” is all about…being emotional and intelligent at the same time. Not only that, but when anger is healthy, you also have love and compassion on board! Now let’s look at how we get there:

1. Get smart about anger. That’s what the AngerManagementResource web site is all about.
2. Make a list of what matters the most to you. These are your values.
3. Make up your mind to live by those values. Chances are, your loved ones are at the top of your list–do you treat them with kindness and respect?
4. Now take action. Learn anger management techniques and how to forgive, so that you can be the kind of person you choose to be.
5. And last but not least, be sure you heal emotionally, so that you can truly love yourself–the first step to loving others.

When you have the power of love, intelligence and healthy anger all working together, there is nothing beyond your reach.

Believe in yourself. Watch this great video, and imagine that the singer is singing directly to you.

Dr. DeFoore’s audio CD program entitled, Nurturing Your Inner Child will help you connect with your inner source of joy, humor, creativity and love. Buy the CD, or download to listen immediately, with a 100% money back guarantee!

So, here are some steps you can take to lighten up and laugh a little:

1. Well, the first step is just to decide to start looking for something to laugh about–that can be a pretty big decision if you’ve been focused on everything that makes you mad.
2. Next, it will really help you if you can get sold on the idea. Read this great article entitled, Laughter Is The Best Medicine, which will remove any doubt about whether this is a good idea.
3. Now, if you’re ready to get started laughing, and maybe even want some laughter coaching, visit Annette Goodheart, Ph.D. “The Laughter Coach.”
4. A picture is worth a thousand words, and here’s about a thousand pictures to bring a smile to your heart.
5. Now for some videos guaranteed to bring a smile, a giggle or maybe a guffaw! Check out the singing dog, a little boy named Elliot getting his first kiss and this adorable laughing baby.

If you make up your mind to look for a little laughter every day, I feel confident that you will be more successful at managing your anger. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain by trying.

Watch this positive journaling video to learn a daily exercise you can start right now to become more positive in your focus, that will definitely take you closer to humor and away from anger.

Here are some things to consider when it comes to anger and humor:

• Anger often results from taking things way too seriously, especially yourself.
• Just by making up your mind to look for the humor in a situation, you have taken a few steps away from your anger.
• Your joy and your sense of humor are closer to who you really are than your anger is–so when you move from anger towards a smile, you’re moving closer to your good heart and soul.
• It takes a stronger, smarter person to laugh at themselves, and find the absurdity in some of their situations.
• When you move from anger toward humor, you are moving from lower brain function to higher brain function, which is good for your heart and your health.

By the way, this is meant with the utmost respect to all those of you who are deeply wounded, and have anger issues related to those wounds. It is not intended that you just need to laugh off your situation, as if that would solve the whole problem. If you need deeper healing for your anger management issues you will find the help you need here.

Dr. DeFoore’s audio CD program entitled, Love Anger and Forgiveness: Creating Joy and Healing In All of Your Relationships will help you forgive and return to love, once and for all! Listen to free previews, buy the CD, or download to listen immediately, with a 100% money back guarantee!

If a lot of anger starts with love, then it follows that the healing of anger would be to get back to the love it all started with. For example, nobody ever gets married with a plan to fight.

Here’s a step by step process you can follow to heal your anger with love (and this will also help when you’re trying to help with someone else’s anger):

1. The most important part of your love life is your relationship with yourself. Make sure you have that part in good order–you can read this web page and/or get this audio CD/download, to create a positive, loving relationship with yourself.
2. Next, learn about what you’re bringing to your relationships and how to create healthy ones, with Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples if you’re married, and Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide if you’re a single person.
3. If the anger in your relationship is out of control, and you need help fast, then learn anger management techniques and how to forgive.
4. It will also help you to learn about Expectations In Marriage and Sacred Roles In Marriage, which will give you lots of useful information, guidance and techniques for creating lasting love in an anger free relationship.
5. If you just want to become more loving in your heart right now, by shifting your mental focus to what’s good, right and working in your life and your world, read the Goodfinding newsletters, and check out the Goodfinding audio CD/download program.

Use these resources, and you will be fully invested in the healing process of moving from anger back to love. It’s not easy, but it’s well worth the journey!

Love is the most powerful emotion of all. Love is the healer. Love is who you are, and what you want most is to love and be loved.

Begin this daily journaling process to help you shift your focus in a positive direction, which will help you to reconnect with the love in your good heart.

• Believe it or not, most anger comes from love. Keep reading to find out how that works.
• When you love someone, you become vulnerable to them. You can be more hurt by someone you love than anyone else.
• Because of that vulnerability, you are (maybe unconsciously) more afraid, anxious and/or sensitive in those relationships.
• Wherever you are the most anxious and sensitive, that’s where you’re the most likely to get angry. This is why domestic violence calls are the most dangerous calls a police officer can make.
• Expressing your love takes you back to who and how you truly are inside. It’ good for you and it heals your relationships.

I think you can see what I’m talking about here. Most of the stories I get from visitors on this site have to do with love relationships gone bad. So, if you’re not going to just stop loving (which I do not recommend), then you need to figure out how to express love in healthy ways, and that includes loving yourself!

• There is nothing wrong with you for being angry.
• The problem is not your anger, it’s how you express it (or stuff it down inside).
• Your anger is useful energy, but you were never taught to accept it and use it in healthy ways.
• When you learn to transform your anger from an enemy to an ally, it will become a tremendously helpful part of who you are.
• Healthy anger is an essential component to your overall health and well being.

Think carefully about each of these statements, and make up your mind that you are going to make your healthy anger work for you instead of against you!

What you pay attention to grows! So, if you’re focusing on the things that make you angry, then guess what! You’ll stay angry.

I know it’s hard to get your mind off of those things that are upsetting you, but when you do shift your focus…even if it’s just a little bit, you will start to calm down and feel better. Here are some quotes to help you with that shifting process:

• Your ability to focus your attention is one of the most powerful tools you posses.
• The more you exercise the skill of consciously and intentionally shifting your focus from one thing to another, the easier it will become. It’s a skill like any other, and you get better with practice.
• Your anger is partly a result of what you’re paying attention to. Shift your focus to one good thing about you, your life or anyone around you, and your anger will begin to subside.
• No matter how angry you are, there is something soothing, something good, something offering comfort, right there within reach of your mental focus.

If you haven’t already figured it out, anger management can be a very challenging problem–especially if you’re just trying to stuff it, control it or make it go away.

Here’s your chance to take a whole new approach to anger management, and begin creating a much happier life in the process!

Dr. DeFoore’s audio CD program entitled, Goodfinding: Optimizing Your Aptitude For Health And Happiness will give you great information, techniques and encouragement on how to shift your focus to what is good, right and working in your life–which will help you greatly with your anger management! Listen to free previews, buy the CD, or download to listen immediately, with a 100% money back guarantee!